Thursday, October 6, 2016

Bad Moms

This particular blog post may be coming out of left field and might be extremely bitchy, but I am ok with that.  I am ok with defending myself and all the other mothers out there who have felt ashamed, saddened, beaten down, accused, and all the in-betweens due to MOM SHAMING.

Listen up!  I am so sick and tired of the shit talk that goes around the "mom universe" each and every day.  I know that I have only been a mom for a short 14 months, but in that short 14 months I have witnessed everything from, "You don't use organic sunscreen?" to "Shoes aren't good for babies."  Oh, yeah?  I am a bad mom for not spending $25 on an organic sunscreen, but instead buying an $8 bottle of Coppertone and using that extra money I saved on groceries?  Am I really a bad mom for trying to teach my child how to walk in shoes?  If you want to read about a bad mom, Google Stephanie Lopez.

A few nights ago a friend and I met to have a beer and discussed the way of living people are enduring these days, especially in Santa Fe.  Here, a lot of people tend to follow the hippie lifestyle  .... and GUESS WHAT?  That is OK.  I'm not judging these people!  Let me get that straight.  I don't care if you want to buy that $25 sunscreen.  Knock yourself out.  I just don't want people to tell ME that I should be using it on myself or members of my family.  If you are rocking this new and improved organic lifestyle, you have my blessing.  I will kiss the ground you walk on.  I am a wanna-be hippie.  I want to be natural, holistic, and healthy too, but do not have the funds to make it possible.  And to be completely honest, I have purchased the gluten, paraben, fragrance, and dye free mirror cleaner and it DID NOT WORK.  Pass me the Windex, please!  Forgive me for wanting a streak-free mirror while applying my organic, hypoallergenic mascara.  Yes, that is right!  I do use some natural products.

And for those of you who are too closed minded and don't want to maaaaaybe, accidentally see a nipple in public because I need to feed my child .... via my breasts .... what the big man created them for .....  Stop staring!  YOU are the one making it awkward.  Someone legitimately asked me, "Are you allowed to do that in public?"  Umm, what?  Feed my child?  Are you allowed to eat that burger in front of me?

Being a mom is the greatest job I have ever had.  I absolutely know that I am kicking ass at it too.  I am a full-time working mom and hit the gym at least three times a week, making it to daycare on time at 5:30 for pick.  I have an amazing husband that gets the babe ready in the morning and cooks us dinner every night.  And we both tag team bath/bed time.  (Brag much? Yep, you bet!)

All I am trying to get across is we, as parents, have our own ways of doing things.  We want to raise our children better than what we were raised and hope that our children raise their children even better.  There are so many other things going on in this world, hurricanes, race wars, two criminals running for president, and clowns ... OMG CLOWNS!

I love my child with all my heart, but I am putting my foot down.  The next person who voices their opinion about how I should raise MY son (without me asking for their opinion first) will seriously get a mental beating.  Enough is enough.  We are ALL doing our best.  Girl, just keep doing what you are doing and stop listening to the haters.

Mic drop.