Before Andy and I got married a lot of people told us the first few years are the hardest. I can verify that this is in fact very true, at least for us. Even though most people date someone for years before marriage I am here to tell you things are different after the honeymoon stage. You live, eat, sleep, and are always together. We were not used to this due to dating for four year before marriage at 500 miles apart.
Many of you know the first few months of being married we lived with a roommate. As newlyweds this is the last thing you want to do. As much as I liked our roommate this was just the wrong time to have one. After that bump, we moved to New Mexico (1,500 miles away from Grand Rapids) where we finally lived on our own together. I have always lived with my parents and brothers so these moves were hard on me, but also very hard on our relationship. I was homesick and very lost. Andy was there for me every night when I cried myself to sleep or needed someone to talk to. I am truly thankful for that.
Like I mentioned above, I have never lived with anyone besides my parents and bothers. Moving in with Andy was a huge shocker not only because I was now really an adult but because I found things out about him I never knew. For example …. Andy is the biggest procrastinator I know. I’ve been asking him to hang a painting in our bathroom for the last three months. I also found out that he is extremely addicted to SteepandCheap.com and Woot.com …. our bank account does not agree with this addiction nor do I. Lastly, the way he communicates … he doesn’t. You can see why this is extremely upsetting for me, a communications major!
I have learned more about him in the past two years than I ever imagined. I am sure he has a similar list for me, but we won’t go there today, :)
On to the positive … Andy is extremely organized. He took it upon himself to be in charge of our finances when we first got married. He is so organized that he has to walk me through what to do when I need to pay a bill. He is also an amazing dog daddy to our labs; this is great news because if and when we decide to have children I know he will be a great father. Also, without trying to rhyme – Andy is very handy. When something breaks or needs some TLC he knows what to do and how to do it. (It might take him a month, but when he does it, it will never break again!) Last but not least, Andy helped me regain my appreciation of the outdoors. I love our hikes, dog park dates, and weekend camping trips together.
With that said I am extremely lucky to have him in my life and couldn’t imagine spending it with someone else. I am very blessed, happy, … all the above. Even though some days are hard, I miss my family and friends, or we get into an argument about how to train the new pup ... I know that at the end of the day we love each other deeply and would do anything for one another
I would like to conclude with a quote I ironically saw on someone’s Facebook today.
“A successful marriage is an edifice that must be rebuilt every day.”
Happy Anniversary, hunny!!